Nuturing

The question in most people's mind when it goes into question of nurturing is that does: discipline helps or is contextualization better or in other words, does tolerance and respect works better?

Teenagers and young adults are often typecast in two different ways, one of which they are errant childs or a blank piece of paper which requires much moulding and "firing" in order for one to be of useful character or alternatively, they viewed as a work in construction with unique creases and folds of which rather to be pressed down- must be emphasized and respected as talents to be horned and lovingly nurtured as opposed to be moulded.

Popular culture therefore in order to justify different "nurturing" methods typecast teenagers and young adults as 1) extremely fun seeking, slightly unruly, sensitive and worldly-wise beyond their years with unique talents and strangely quite introspective for their out-going nature, a maelstrom of quite deep and clever emotions within a rather messed up world not ready for their precocious minds 2) They are viewed as wholesome child, errant even though in certain ways and ignorant but yet all the more eager to live up to expectations and ultimately a good kid, gone wrong which requires moulding and therefore discipline- sort of like the prodigal son or daughter.

The narrative would therefore be moulded to shape different nurturing techniques I suppose.

Actually for 1) I find the narrative quite rather incredulous. When I was growing up, I have never met an introspective, and fun loving peer of mine which have emotional depth of an adult. There were smart ones and there were fun loving ones, the fun loving ones are really emotionally stunned and have a maturity of their age. The "good" ones are that studied hard which might have emotional depth beyond their years but have the breadth of a child. They are quite incapable of focusing on what they have already know.

2) Wholesome children which is ever willing to accept discipline and moulding by seniors is a narrative of which I believe exist but only because the environment does not allow them anything but that. Children and teenagers, and young adults who play their roles well and as such, hide beneath a melting pot of emotions of which deviance is strongly suppressed and have pent-up emotions where catharsis sometimes can comes in forms of confusion and dishonesty. An inauthentic personality lacking in charm and genuine affection for things that they enjoy.

The first to me put realism so far ahead that I do not think that it corresponds with actual reality. The second to me, puts idealism so far ahead that realism have to correspond with that.

Ultimately, we must always bear in mind that these are models of which we utilize to help us rather than to follow religiously.

We would at the end of the day must remind ourselves that things can go wrong and will go wrong and these are humans with quite sometimes random nature involved- and we might at the end of the day try too hard and lose the end sight in mind- which is to nurture a full individual and well rounded one rather than an one-dimensional one that both tries to portray.