In Hobbies and Relationships.

Some have said that if you view you know boyfriend/girlfriend relationship so flippantly- why then were so sad the last time round?

There are so many rumours flying around, so-and-so said this and did this, he did this crazy thing and did that crazy thing. How then can he say he treat relationships so easily- must be sour grapes right...?

Well, in all relationships if there are no jealousy- then something must be really wrong, but after the dust has settled, it is just a matter of perspective.

If a relationship is a hobby- then what if you took this hobby seriously- and when things didn't turn out the way it is, it is quite fathomable that one gets disappointed right. But this hobby did not go as planned, does one continue to mop and cry over spilt milk- no right. And if you really enjoy the hobby but can't seem to get it right- you would try and try again right so long as time and other stuff permits right.

But really if you just don't have the flair for the hobby, you move on right, find other things to occupy you and eventually, you might just find the hobby quite platable for you. Hence I find it quite ridiculous that people continue to say because of the crazy things one did, it means one will never get over a person or hobby.

If I enjoy say modeling a car, I would go to great length to procure the best paint or get the best parts- people might call me anti-social for going crazy over a toy car but well, it's my hobby, did I intrude to your space or ask for your comments.

Well, relationships is like having a hobby- you enjoy it because during your spare time because you spend it fruitfully on something you enjoy. If it doesn't suit you or can't seem to have the flair for it- isn't it time to moved on. Hence indeed, whatever success and failures in a relationships- it ultimately remains a hobby, it will pass and there will be other things to do to spend your time more fruitfully. Thats unless you restrict yourself to one single hobby in your whole life time, then I don't call it a hobby and more like a committment- and it requires a whole new set of analogies altogether

Trashy people with trashy news and flitting hear-say, just like to simplify matters and make it to a matter of love and death. Quite frankly, it took me so long to clarify all these, is that I find a nuisance to explain myself to people what I do in my private time and what I see as an hobby- something of which I enjoy doing.

Do you explain to people why you play with barbie dolls in a certain way, or drive your remote car recklessly and why is that anything different from explaining how I spend my spare time.

Then of course, there are people are treat this more than a hobby- and treat it as an extension of a matter of absolute morality and character judgement. Well, on that count, I have never forced anyone to do anything that they did not wish to do. I did not threaten anyone to be with me otherwise I would kill myself.

The only thing I did was to speak loudly and crassly- and even that was not out of malice but out of good intentions. But of course, the opposite party would begged to differ but really, asked her one simple thing: Would she ever do again what she did? The answer will be a resounding no. And on that end, that was my parting "gift" to a hobby that I really did enjoy but ultimately had to let go because I just didn't had the flair for.

Well of course some would have accuse me pretending to be the nice guy- I don't think I can dig out my heart and show it to you my true intentions. But well, I don't think I need prise away $2,000 only to give it away to another person's favourite charity. Why do I need to be bad guy just so I can donate money away.

Well, this would always remain a topic of debate among gossip mongerers, do-nothings because I don't think dig out my heart and show you my true intentions- and let it be then. Well, Public Relations has a saying right, "no publicity is bad publicity". So oh well- thanks for keeping me in the limelight anyway.

Like I say, it is nothing more than a hobby. Different hobbies require a different temperament and managerial style so to speak. Hence i am not a one dimension person that have only one trick up his sleeve. Even if nothing comes up, so be it as well- things have a way of finding a way. I can't say for sure what though.

Let's give a toast to hobbies- and bobbies; and whatever your inclinations.

Nights