On Girlfriends and Fairy Tales

This isn't really a dissertation or anything, but just some observations.

I have a couple of girlfriends before and went on quite a number dates. Some work out, some don't. Some girlfriends left me, some were left by me. Quite frankly, I have never taken all these girlfriend/boyfriend stuff that seriously.

The longest courtship I ever did was one week, and I have never folded paper flowers for any of them and I have never like burn a CD of their favourite songs. Really courtship to me is like a hobby to me- I do it because I have some spare time.

I never see quite the need to bend over my back just to prove my love. I mean especially since I just met you and how do you and I know whether you are worth all the effort. But of course, many people have viewed my chatting of girls and asking them as desperation, but really, it is like asking your friends for a drink or dinner- sometimes, it works out and sometimes it don't. Nothing to be ashamed about- keep it light my friend.

To be honest, I find this idea of doing everything for a girl quite a ridiculous idea. I mean if she is just a human, why should one go through so much effort just to please one person. All men, I believe, always want to make you "feel" special but knew deep inside, don't know whether they can keep this up or is smiling wryly deep inside. That is indeed the longest serving con job of all time.

But there another type of men which I found it quite detestable and irritating actually. You can find them quite frequently. They are those insecure boys pretending to be "men" whom basically uses all types of personna to get close to a girl but never really does anything- and if a girl really finds someone, he badmouths him.

They will be the nicest person to her, does everything for her but behind her back, badmouths everyone that comes even remotely close to her. My first thought is that if you can keep this personna- good for you; and if this girl likes you for this personna, you can have her- because I think she is a nutcase and divorce from reality. And good luck, keeping up the appearances, she is your problem now. Thanks for filtering though.

So long as there is men around, there will always be women- especially those pretty ones- that thinks everyday is a disneyland and she is a princess. Because hot-blooded men will always over-compensate to keep the women happy. They would rather buy that car to fetch the girl around while eating bread everyday.

Women safe in their disneyland castle will never know the truth while the men worry about trying to find the next "wow" factor to please the woman. Then it all gets tired, then everyone breaks up, thats when the women finds out the it's prince is nothing more than a glorified pauper. But of course, if you are pretty- then you would always find another sucker to buy you that princess dream again.

So really heartbreak, romance and all these coupling stuff to me is really just an enjoyable hobby to me. If I am really busy, I might not even think about it. But really, after you past 21 year birthday- isn't it something that if you even if your have or don't, it doesn't really matter that much.

Sometimes, it's not very worth it to build another person's castle dreams isn't it.

So when I broke up with girlfriend once, a friend commented: how come you look ok. Well, this hobby didn't quite work out and we tried our best to work it out and really if both sides ae not happy, it is best to part ways and move on. I can only hope we can remain friends. But it's really tough I know sometimes.

I went on many dinners and drinks, and some work out and other's don't. Some women make it a point to scrutinize every pore on your body like it's an indication of cancer- that makes me extremely uncomfortable. And there are some who bring friends along hoping for a second opinion. I find it uncomfortable too, am I auditioning for Singapore's next heartthrob- why do I need to face a panel.

Anyway, a dinner is a dinner, and a drink is a drink. Sometimes, there is more too it and sometimes there aren't. Whatever it is, get a life. Life is more important than worrying whether a sharply-coiffed hair, is an indication of virility and long term happiness.

Time to work out my abs, just in case, some women likes manual clothes washing of the bodily kind.