Make Babies and be Merry

A comparative method only works and to find the variable is only useful if you are able to hold other things constant. And if this particular variable has salience then does it have any form of correlation and causation.

If other things are not held constant, then insofar, the variable is in itself flawed. For example, if you are looking for a tastiness of apples from two different farms, one cannot used orange and an apple from two different farms to make comparison- simply because these are two different fruits altogether. This all sounds extremely scientific and common sensical.

Let me then demonstrate to you for extremely un-usefulness of using comparative method in finding your life partner. For one, one seeks a partner for different reasons: 1) some for love 2) some for the comapnionship 3) some for money and there are many other whimsical reasons for that as well.

A person seeking companionship is different from one seeking for love. Therefore one man's or woman's poison can be another man or woman's meat. Assuming that companionship has certain qualities- personable, genial and conversational might be attributes for one- but one who is seeking love, they are better off finding a dog instead. And let's not forget about the third, but I think that is self-explanatory although not mutually exclusive.

Hence one is really looking a red chilli pepper, and the other one is looking for comfort fruits like mango and the last well, just like to have foie gras for every meal [ that would be an extreme]. Hence therefore, when one is looking for a partner: those with these different eyes can almost look at the same thing totally differently.

And in making a comparison, each have different preferences and history and insofar then if we were to used conventions- the weightage on different dimensions are almsot different and insofar too, these are the more common ones and for each personality- there are all various idiosyncratic qualities that one look for. And I am not even talking about love- I am just talking about partner selection- and on the former, the one whole pandora's box will be open.

I used to chase this girl- I think that the only reason that we rejected me was that she was probably close to my height or taller than me. This is perfectly fine by me- because I think people think differently about different things- and I respect that. Maybe that's what she is looking for and if that was deal breaker- why torture yourself in a manner of which into circumstances that cannot be changed. This is not a manner of love- it is simply that she/he doesn't like you. We remained friends somewhat but well, we just move along.

There is saying that "all's fair in love and war." My question to that would be: I am sorry, how do I start. I all for fair competition if you are in love or really like this particular person but how does comparison or competition come into play. And assuming that you have "won the heart"- what does it even mean. Let's just look at the above.

And at this current moment, I have seen much that what used to capture me- somehow or rather lost the shine and in similar terms- simply my biological clock is ticking- but I am not a woman hence I have no biological clock to speak off really. Well, I think you get the drift.

This is not a manner of having a roving eye or no one is good enough for me- but rather in reality, I have no practical reasons to be practical if you think about it. I can dream if I so can, simply because and force a "better hand" so to speak simply because time is well, one can say on my side. My ovaries don't malfunction at 35 and everything will work fine so long as I remain relatively healthy hence why should I take a lousy hand when my hand is really much bigger.

Well, women on the other hand- don't have luxury- unless children is not on their cards. And even if so, I am pretty sure that question will come up one time or another- well for me, I really don't have a need for that dilemma. I know that things will not be risky even when I am 21 or when I am 55, it really doesn't makes a difference anyway.

Meanwhile, I'll hold my hand first and let other's do the baby making duties.

Happy baby-making everyone.

P/S: If I do, my babies would turn out better than your's- trust me on that.