Face, Kids and Marriages

I was having dinner with my family and my grandma at a Japanese restaurant the other day. I can safely tell you how cheap Singaporeans can be. You see I think that Singaporeans are trying to extort money from the government by threatening to not give birth to babies and support the Singapore population. I think Singaporeans should get their mind straight by reminding themselves that if they can turn off the tap of immigrants, they can easily turn it back on again.

I saw this family, I think about my age with a few kids and like trying to tell the whole world that just because I am married and have babies, I must have privilege for everything. You must be joking right. Families with babies are a nuisance and besides, only people with nothing to look forward to have babies and families.

You can almost see the smugness on their faces like it is wrong to have dinner with your family and grandma on a Saturday night. If I just want to pissed them off, I can simply order a bride from somewhere and have a baby just about tomorrow. I really don't quite understand why a grown couple can feel very proud about having children and wife. You should feel happy and not proud.

If I am happy, I do not need to tell the whole world that I am happy. It is precisely because you are upset about something that's why you need to find someone or something to compare against to feel happy. I have nothing against families and being married. I just have something against getting hitched just to prove that I belong to a particular society.

If I married and then I start to show off because I am getting married, is like trying to tell the world I just bought new car and please look at me. I think if you get married for this reason, you are really screwed and I seriously think you are nuts. I meant that not in a sarcastic manner, I literally mean you are nuts.

And after 2 years when that "showing off" feeling wears off, what are you going to do about it, have children of course. And what do you do, show off your children of course. Hell, even if I am being picked over married guy for anything, I still won't get married just for that sake. I have this sneaky feeling that some people actually get married for that particular reason and I really sympathize with them. And once again, I don't mean it sarcastically.

I don't want a job to got to me if I am married. I want a job to go to me because I am right for the job. And at the same time, I still think that is quite sacred and even if you if it happens, it should be for the right reasons and after a while, you feel compelled to show off, I seriously think that you did not marry for the right reasons.

No, I don't feel compelled to feel left out and feel inadequate just because I am not married at an appropriate age. If marriage is trying to show how attractive you are to the opposite sex, and then trust me, it is not that difficult. And if marriage is for you to demonstrate that you care enough for someone to start a family, then it is not to show off. It is because you seriously want to get married.

The couple at the restaurant and even some of my relatives whom somehow feel a very strange pride in seeing someone get married without whether even sure that giving birth to a child is a right thing to do surprises me. If you are a technician and working to make ends meet, you are likely to have a kid to do exactly the same thing, unless he/she is an outlier or abit prodigious. Hence I wouldn't want to get married to show off, I will get married because I want to. But I think judging from the observations of some Singaporeans- they believed in the former.

Trust me, if you are former and you want to squeeze the government to get some benefits, they will simply open the tap and let the immigrants flood in again- suddenly your "ill-thought out" kid  becomes a burden to society and they suddenly blame the government for opening the tap. I think it is best that you marry and give birth for the right reasons and not to show off that you have "grown up" or want to get "privileges" due to some "normative values".

Compete with someone on equal playing field and then give birth for the normative ones- I seriously think that your brain must be screwed to have this flipped the other way around.

P/S: I have nothing against kids and families but for crying out loud, we are Chinese so keep your family affairs to yourself.

Similarly, since apparently I am prone and susceptible to madness hence this renders me of not of marriageable quality and so in this case, I will live out in pension somewhere else and use some my old money to get passive income. 5% on a million dollars is not that difficult to live on actually- besides I have place to stay right. Look mad, or not mad- I will live. Hence your opinion is never important to me.

Seeya when I seeya.