Bigger, Better, Faster and Happier

I have mentioned in the previous post about leaving and that it makes more sense to leave than to stay in a place which have disappointed me. You see, it makes me sound like a sour puss and think that just because I cannot succeed here, I can make it somewhere else.

When it almost seems like I deserve everything that I did, me leaving and going somewhere else to make my life.

I have always maintained that money was never important to me, it was merely a means to an end. This simply means that making money was simply enjoyable because it was fun to accumulate them that's all. Similarly I was leaving because everyone in this place is rejecting me- starting a family and having kids and think that I have destroyed my life for acts that one cannot even fathom.

Last year, I met up with some friends from university which started a family and then knew that I was not working, the behaviour was in itself quite deplorable. You see he was shouting to everyone he was working in Oman and flying to be a successful engineer and have a beautiful wife, a kid and another on tow. My question is that: Why do you need to prove to me that you are happy. Why I said that was because, he made me paid me paid the bill. Just to prove that he has everything, and I have nothing.

You see, you will read in the previous post about causation and relationship. All these above trapping could make you happy but it is not necessarily a cause for happiness. The fact that he is unhappy about a swinging bachelor without a job and looking happy, simply suggests that he is really unhappy about something, and that has nothing to do with me.

This means that he is needs to show off that he is happy just to tell himself that everything he does is worth it and not that a person whom everyone expect to look down on has the better deal. I never said that you are not happy, I am just simply not the same as you as that's all. Hence he is obviously quite unhappy with the current state of affairs, and having to justify that a decision he makes a few years ago was right, which is get married, have kids and have a solid middle class life.

I never said I was happier than you, I just simply think that I am happy for you and I was just waiting out that's all or did something different that's all. Once again, the "causation", in this case, when you throw the dice is not me, it is you. This means I cannot make you happy. Only you can make you happy.

My relationship in that my suffering will make you happy is correlated only because you are unhappy. Not because I am better than off you- this means the cause of unhappiness is something inside you, and has nothing to with me. This means that making me unhappy will not you happy because I am not "cause". You are regretting the decision that's all. The cause is your regret and that is personal. I added him on Facebook, he did not accept it.

I never get angry with people with the above symptoms- you see they are simply swimming in and around the in circle, chasing their own tail. I almost always sympathize with them. They never get to root of the problem- and have resigned to the fate of finding fault with other's to justify their own position.

I have nothing against kids nor against marriage, I just don't need to get married to prove to someone that I should be like them that's all. If I do that, they become the cause of my marriage or dalliances., which should not be the reason that's all.

If I get married or find a girlfriend or even find some random woman to get together just to prove that I am better and can get what they want, it would simply be putting the causation onto them. That would make me quite desperate isn't it. Maybe they know something that I don't but if I knew, I would do it right.

What is the difference between them and myself. I might consider it more intensely since they put the question but I would not do it  because some joker is regretting their decision or have to display a superiority complex.

Hence there isn't a need to prove to me to be happy or superior. you just need to know it yourself. But all I know is that many people is very unhappy- judging from their responses- and that is question for another day. If you feel superior because you have kids and a wife and some job that requires to fly around- 1) I pity your wife and kids 2) you are probably a backstabber at office, and you really love your job more than your family, which is why you need to highlight your employment status. I thought your family is your most important thing. Oops.

You see why I don't want to get a job so fast just to prove to someone that I am perfectly employable. You see that these people have to get a job to keep a family- and that is almost the reason for their superiority and favoured status among society. It has almost nothing to do with your job effectiveness at all- this is something that I am more than happy to let go since you have made the decision to tie yourself to someone's life. I like to think that the superiority complex is nothing more than compensating yourself to willingly tie yourself to another person's life.

I just like to find out whether I am truly "superior" that's all. None of those "daddy, daddy" stuff. It is an ego trip for me that's all, well for you, it is matter of life and death- you win. I lose, gladly.

You see why I am leaving, you are unhappy or upset about something and that tells me that it is time for me to go. That is my biggest takeaway. There is something in the air that is not right because it is happening too often to be normal. But it is definitely not me. Enjoy.